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sjvsworldtour wrote:Yea, not being negative is the biggest thing we could all do. There are other things. For instance, if I see someone with their hood up in a parking lot, I usually offer a jump start. You can save someone a lot of heartache over a few minutes of your time.
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General kindness is a great trait. I always try to help people when I can. If I see someone in distress on the side of the road I'll usually stop and see what I can do.

It's that kind of stuff that we need more of in the world. It's funny, if you watch youtube vids of "crazy accidents" or what not, in America usually when it happens you always see people trying to hurry and drive around it do they're not caught in traffic. It's terrible.

I think we need to teach people to empathize more and compete less. The majority of people seem to treat any argument as a zero-sum game, you want to be right and make the other guy be wrong. There are a lot of people that think they know better than everyone else and are blind to their own flaws. I think it ties into what Jamie has said about creativity. We need to embrace differences in opinions because that's what makes wonderful thing happen. If I told people I was going to build a house out of chocolate pudding, most people would say it was a stupid idea, or that it was somehow "wrong". Why can't we say "wow, that's interesting" and then they discuss it and maybe it sparks someone to create a gelatin foundation for buildings in earthquake areas or something.

Empathy is a concept many don't understand.

MultipleMiggs wrote:I think we need to teach people to empathize more and compete less. The majority of people seem to treat any argument as a zero-sum game, you want to be right and make the other guy be wrong. There are a lot of people that think they know better than everyone else and are blind to their own flaws. I think it ties into what Jamie has said about creativity. We need to embrace differences in opinions because that's what makes wonderful thing happen. If I told people I was going to build a house out of chocolate pudding, most people would say it was a stupid idea, or that it was somehow "wrong". Why can't we say "wow, that's interesting" and then they discuss it and maybe it sparks someone to create a gelatin foundation for buildings in earthquake areas or something.

Great post. I think this is a very important thing to keep in mind on this forum. I'm not a musician; so sorry if this is a bad analogy, but: If a bunch of musicians pick up and play together, they try to riff off each other's themes and build something beautiful that works together. You don't see the drummer just all of a sudden go off and change the tune dramatically. In many of the best conversations on this forum, I see the same thing.

Each time someone joins the conversation, they build off the ideas and points of the previous posts. The new post doesn't treat previous ideas as "crazy", but instead thoughtfully considers each of them and looks to see how they can add positive ideas. I hope this will be a place where no idea is too crazy and every person is treated with respect. It can be a lot of fun as well; as illustrated by the hypothetical chocolate pudding house thread (haha, I love that idea).

I like the idea of ideas building off each other. Even if an idea isn't so good, it can inspire other ideas that could be. It is fine to say that won't work because... As long comments are constructive, I am good with them. Also, I am a big believer in not being overly critical if you can't offer some kind of alternative. If you think and idea is bad, point out why, but also suggest another possibility.

sjvsworldtour wrote:I like the idea of ideas building off each other. Even if an idea isn't so good, it can inspire other ideas that could be. It is fine to say that won't work because... As long comments are constructive, I am good with them. Also, I am a big believer in not being overly critical if you can't offer some kind of alternative. If you think and idea is bad, point out why, but also suggest another possibility.

I think your view sucks. I like ideas to be thought up on a whim, with no prior thought. Things just come to you. Your idea is bad because it requires logic.



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I agree with you though, although sometimes, let's say you are more experienced in the subject the person is talking about. Explaining WHY their view doesn't work is hard because sure, YOU can understand why, but you have experience to back it up. They don't, so they probably won't believe you. You can still provide an alternative though.

In my own point of view, I think it is really true that we cannot please everybody here in this world. There will always be someone who will make one's life miserable. There really are just people who loves to criticize others and it makes them happy. We just need to accept that and let's just pray that they will soon realize their mistakes.

While empathy is some everyone should strive for, I think the biggest part of it is understanding that we all have different goals. If you look at something someone is doing and you see how they could change it to closer fit your goals, it doesn't matter. They aren't out to meet your goals, only their own.

I try to never be mean to people. Neither online, nor face to face.
That is so, because I really believe that people are going to treat you just the way you treat them.